Let me count the ways.
Number one. It’s taking you forever(errrr) to decide.
Oh really, you think those 5-minute windows where you and your friend throw the “Where do you wanna eat?” question back and forth is nothing?
Or those 15-minute windows every single day where you change between outfits just so you could pick the perfect one to wear is just routine?
Think about it. If it takes you at least 5-10 minutes every meal to decide where to eat, that’s already 30 minutes in a day. Add in the 15-30 minutes it’s taking you to “get dress” (only to undress and dress again and undress and dress ag-…I can go on forever too, you know). That’s already an hour of your day that you could’ve spent on other things productive.
a few chapters into your book of the week
an exercise routine
an email clean-up (for Inbox Zero, if you’re into it)
a draft of your new post/idea
a new video or editing that last one
a few self-improvement articles
a few trades on the stock market
some progress on the new skill that you’ve been trying to learn
This list can go on forever as well, but you get my point.
These may seem like trivial, small actions done in minutes that we usually don’t notice but
“Small habits often lead to the biggest impacts.” And these are not exceptions.
Perils of Indecisions
Have you been in a situation where you just feel stuck? It’s an uncomfortable place to be.
Lack of decision is a sign of lack of definition of what you value and what your priorities are.
Insecurity of yourself – you are unsure of what to do, you are unsure of yourself.
It stops your growth personally and professionally.
You see how this is ruining your life yet?
Number two. You wait for defining moments.
“I’ll do it as soon as I’m ready.”
“I’ll do that after I graduate or after the kids are off to college.”
“I’ll take care of it as soon as I get my raise! (or as soon as I get promoted.)”
“I’ll start when I get married.”
For most of us, we WAIT for these milestones before we act, before we DO. I personally, am guilty of this. Actually, I think I’ve uttered all these words out in the past.
So don’t be like me. Ha!
“Don’t wait for defining moments, DEFINE the moment and DECIDE.”
Number three. You decided you want it BUT you don’t go for it.
…and then it’s too late for you.
The End. *Roll credits*
How many times have you let an opportunity pass to speak up at a meeting?
How many times have you told yourself that you’ll get up on time and then you hit the snooze?
How many times have you liked someone but then you never went for it and then they’re off with someone else?
Every second, every minute, every single day we make these teeny tiny decisions.Mel Robbins
You have every opportunity to go for it.
Number four. You are not intentional.
You have to make decisions on purpose.
Identify the problem – you are making a decision because there is something that needs to be solved. Let’s start with the basic, like say, you’re hungry. (Because right now, I am!) Your frustration is that you’re hungry, therefore, you have to solve that frustration. You have to choose whether to eat, what to eat, where to eat.
Create a timeframe to make this decision – How urgent? Like, how hungry are you? Have a timeframe and stick to it.
What’s another surefire way that you’re ruining your life?
Number four. You overthink. A LOT.
Nothing creates more fear than overthinking.
It paralyzes you. It drives you to procrastinate.
And when you overthink, it eats up your self-confidence. It drives you to do the hardest you could to make the most perfect decision.
But lo and behold, there is no such thing.
And when you get to find that out for yourself, your life is now in shambles.
So there you go!
Ultimately, it’s your decisions, or the lack thereof, that is ruining your life.
Because believe it or not…
“Your life comes down to your decisions. And if you change your decisions, you will change everything.”Mel Robbins
So, for the love of your dreams — DECIDE! 🙂